Saturday, May 20, 2006

60 things about me

I have been doing these 20 at a time... so I just scooped up the last 40 from a previous post and now I'll add 20 more:

1. I'm my mother's only child
2. My father had other children, but I've never met any of them. (Are you one of them?)
3. I love rich, creamy, melt-in-your-mouth dark chocolate almost more than life itself
4. The size I prefer to be is a 3-5 (American... not sure what that translates to anywhere else) But right now I'm more like a 12
5. My ideal "job" would be writing/producing/directing both films and animated videos to accompany all of my songs.
6. I love to be barefoot...
7. On hot days I prefer not to have BOTH my feet AND my armpits covered. One or the other needs to be bare, LOL (Otherwise I feel faint!)
8. I like WB T.V. shows like Smallville and Gilmore Girls.
(This was written before WB became CW, and both shows were cancelled)
9. I once shaved my head... completely bald.
10. When I was a child I wanted to be a Veterinarian.
11. I am allergic to cats, which is one reason I changed my mind about #10
12. My mother was an awesome artist.
13. My father wrote television screenplays... I have some of them in my possession. Not sure if they were ever used, but they include plots for the "Twilight Zone".
14. My father was a disabled WWII veteran who had no legs from the knees down.
15. I went to a camp when I was young where we were assigned a horse and taught how to care for it. I got to go there two summers in a row (for a week or two each time)
16. My second toe is longer than the first on both of my feet.
17. I cut my nails short on my left hand to press the strings for chords on the guitar, but I keep the nails on my right hand longer for fingerpicking.
18. I haven't been writing and performing songs publicly lately, but I'm getting ready to do it again.
19. I like to have fires in my backyard... we have a homemade barbecue to make them in, and they are similar to campfires.
20. I grew up going to Reds games at Riverfront Stadium in Cincinnati
21. I broke my arm when I was 6 years old, by putting my feet on the handlebars, and both arms straight out (like an airplane) then attempting to coast down a hill.
22. I started smoking both tobacco and cigarettes at the age of 13, quit both more than once.
23. The only places I have been outside the U.S. are Canada (for 5 minutes as a kid... then got in a fight with my mother and that was the end of that) and Peru.
24. I love to cook, and I'm pretty good at it... but I HATE to clean up afterward.
25. I prefer to wear my hair long.
26. My favorite color is that fluorescent pinkish-orange the sky turns at sunrise and sunset.
27. I prefer antiques to modern furniture.
28. If I were to design my dream home, it would be primarily underground... built into the side of a mountain and made to look like a series of separate cottages and pavilions from the outside that are interconnected from within.
29. I absolutely detest mindless humor.
30. I don't enjoy most comedy much any more.
31. My favorite actor is Johnny Depp, but I also love Charlie Chaplin, Roberto Benigni, Jimmy Stewart, John Wayne and Marilyn Monroe.
32. I have a very hard time getting motivated to do things for myself, but do a good job when I have been given a task to complete for someone else.
33. My favorite alcoholic drink is a Strawberry Daquiri, followed closely by wine... usually white.
34. I hope to fly a paraglider one day.
35. I've never been much of a dancer.
36. I've always wanted to have a horse.
37. I had braces (on my teeth) twice, but didn't get the job finished properly and never wore a retainer.
38. Out of six children I gave birth to, two were c-section births.
39. If I could visit anywhere in the world, I'd most likely go to Hawaii,
Israel and maybe England.
40. I believe people are meant to live tribally, or communally, rather than in separate little apartments or single-family homes.
41. I have a split between my front teeth.
42. I have given up a child for adoption.
43. I sometimes regret giving that child up for adoption.
44. I prefer to sit on an exercise ball instead of a chair.
45. I build websites: Rainbow Websites
46. I have sometimes hosted open mic. nights.
47. I used to have a P.A. and enough equipment to perform in a small to midsize establishment. (Not any more, sold it...)
48. My son and I went to college together. (You may know this if you've read more of my blog!)
49. My children range in age from 9-25 right now.
50. I am a packrat.
51. I have two bunnies, a cat, and a dog.
52. I am terrified of tornadoes.
53. Cool wind makes my ears hurt, but warm wind is nice.
54. The only time I willingly wear shoes is when it is cold and rainy or just cold in general.
55. I wear socks to bed.
56. I don't sleep well if the room's too warm or the air too still.
57. I've begun to get "hot flashes" and drive my family crazy by raising the thermostat every time I feel cold. <~~ That was when the central air still worked
58. I found this great tonic called Mona Vie that is awesome! I drink it daily. <~~not any more
59. I am very thrilled with my middle son right now because he won an award for his mathematical abilities. Could he be my rocket scientist? (Now that son is in Washington State with his big brother & pregnant wife... so Frank's wife won't be alone when he has to go for training or out to sea)
60. I think my oldest daughter is beautiful beyond words. Her spirit as well as her shell: I only wish she and I were not always griping at each other. <~~I think this is nearly universal with teenagers at some point

Sunday, May 14, 2006

Having a rotten Mother's Day

I don't think it's too much to ask for all my children to gather for a meal with their mother one day a year... do you? Well... I know it's unusual, but we don't sit down to meals together as a general rule. We are all on different schedules: my husband works third shift, there is always something going on. We don't get hungry at the same time of day either. But for Mother's Day I think it would be nice if they'd all spend that one or two hours with ME. Not their girlfriends and THEIR mothers... but I guess I'd better just get used to that.

Well... Happy Mother's Day to the rest of the world. Hope your day is going better than mine. I need to go get rid of this headache I'm plagued with. And seek to improve the rest of the day!

Thursday, May 04, 2006

Screwy

I tried to post in here the other day, but the code was screwed up. Hope it's fixed now! I was trying to tell everyone that I had a gig last Saturday night!!!

Monday, May 01, 2006

Silly me!

I had a gig Saturday night, and promoted/blogged about it everywhere but here. Sigh. No one reads this any more anyway...

Monday, March 13, 2006

Let sleeping dogs lie

I wrote the following in response to a question that our local TV station, UPN 33 posted on the "Ask Angela" section. The question was: "Should celebrities respond to insults on the internet from strangers?"

In response to the question of whether a celebrity should respond to internet insults from strangers: where would it ever end? You give a dog a bone, he comes back for more. He'll whine and cry at your door 'til you give him something more, and it only ends if you ignore him or otherwise dispose of him. Since the latter is not practical, only the former applies (ignore it). Besides... remember that old saying? "There is no such thing as bad publicity except your own obituary." ~~Brendan Behan Irish author & dramatist (1923 - 1964) So, in conclusion, unless, as Mark Twain once said, "the rumors of your demise have been greatly exaggerated" it's best to let sleeping dogs lie.

Sunday, March 12, 2006

Work won't do itself

Sigh. Too much to do, and I've been soooooooooo sleepy! I was supposed to see the doc on Thursday, but got a call that she was sick so had to postpone 'til later in the month. Hope she has some insights. I'm not depressed, but my body might be! LOL

Tuesday, March 07, 2006

No one comments any more

I have made it nearly impossible for the spammers to get through with their viagra ads and stuff... but no one else is leaving comments either. I had thought since my life was getting a little less boring that I might find more feedback, but alas, I think my online friends have gone to greener pastures.

I know that even at its most exciting my life is still a little on the dead side these days. But it's getting more and more interesting every day. Well... here's to the day when it finally gets to the point where I have readers again.

Or do I have readers that just don't have anything to say? I just don't know. My stats say people visit this page... but the lack of comments suggests that they were either just passing though or found nothing worth saying something about here. Well... unless y'all tell me, I guess I'll never know why.

Tuesday, February 28, 2006

Optimistic

Well... things are looking up.

Just spoke to my client regarding the sleep apnea site and he ordered more work which may prove to be ever more lucrative. If I can just keep my self-destructive nature from allowing me to shoot myself in my own proverbial foot...

This guy is unreal... I don't know what made him choose me or why he so tenaciously insists that he'd rather have me than others he could choose, but he's got to be the most diplomatic easygoing person I have ever known. That is very atypical in his position... president of not one but several companies! Always has 1000 things going on, yet it does not appear to faze him at all!

Monday, February 27, 2006

Long strange trip

I have made a decision that a lot of people aren't very happy with, but it is mine to make nonetheless.

I'm putting my music up on the web... and not charging for downloads.

I have already had my lyrics online for years, so people need to just get over it.

If I'm meant to be wealthy I will be: but not at the expense of my reasoning.

How many more people will hear my music if I give it away for free than if I demand money for it? I am much more interested in having my music span the globe than I am in a petty monetary reward.

I fully believe that my methodology is sound. I will not explain it in detail here, but would be delighted to expound upon its virtues to anyone who cares to email me privately about it.

Well, off to get some work done. Websites don't build themselves!

Thursday, February 23, 2006

Email to WSVN (local FOX affiliate)

The subject line on the email was "myspace.com story rebuttal"

Hello,

I saw a teaser on your upcoming program, and was dismayed by the heavy negative slant on this story.

I am a myspace user, as are most of my kids. While protection is good... awareness is better.
Meaning: there is no substitute for teaching your children the perils of this world prior to their having to encounter such things.
In a perfect world there would be no evil, but alas... there is... and turning a blind eye does not diminish its veracity.

When you seek to curtail your children's activities it leads to two things:
1. The child does not feel trusted and conversely finds it difficult to trust others, and
2. The feeling of "damned if I do, damned if I don't" will lead that same child (who might have been the most upstanding and honest child ever) to lie and hide things from parents.

I believe in allowing my children a sense of privacy, while keeping an eye (quietly) on their activities.
As a result, my children allow me into their world and know they can turn to me with any question no matter how oddball or off-the-wall it might seem.
Online, I allow them nearly complete freedom.

I don't allow my children to go wherever they want to and do whatever they please in the physical realm, but I do allow them that freedom online, because they are learning how to express themselves there. HOWEVER there are those red flags and negative instances which I won't belabor because WSVN has already done so in their segment on the subject.
I would say that anything hate-related should definitely be investigated - but then the apples don't fall far from the tree, do they?

I think it is important that you show the good side of myspace.com such as the Pay it Forward group and other positive groups designed to assist others and offer advice.
I created such a group myself in response to a perceived need. There is a balance.
For every loser, pervert or creep you find on myspace there is also an angel there, working to make this world a little kinder and friendlier.
Please don't forget that in the "dirty laundry" game.

Thank you for taking the time to read this, and I hope you'll consider what I've said and make a sincere effort to look at "the flip side" of the situation your report covers.
I'd be glad to write the piece for ya, LOL

Sincerely,
Mrs. Lydia Shelley
Hollywood FL viewer

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www.rainbow-websites.com

Friday, February 17, 2006

Glitches in the systems

I'm wondering if there's some kinda virus going 'round hitting big servers today or something, cuz jamwave.com is all messed up (fan clubs aren't showing, full charts aren't showing) and gmail just went down, too! What next?

Not that I'm complaining... only spots 1-10 on the country chart are showing, and I HAVE ALL TEN OF THEM, LOL!

Thursday, February 16, 2006

What's Your Hidden Talent?




Your Hidden Talent



You have the power to persuade and influence others.

You're the type of person who can turn a whole room around.

The potential for great leadership is there, as long as you don't abuse it.

Always remember, you have a lot more power over people than you might think!

Wednesday, February 15, 2006

Letter to Jagermeister

Actually, I wrote to their promo company with this one:

I was singing at Club M in Hollywood Florida last night, when I choked. I mean REALLY choked. Broke up coughing: after the first song! "Holy crap!" I thought... "I'd better find my cough drops!" But lo and behold, there were none. Sorrowfully, I shook my head and told the disappointed assemblage that I could no longer perform. "Oh," said Ed... the host, "have you ever tried Jagermeister?" Which I had not, as I live under a rock and rarely creep out into the world... so I gave it a try. ONE SHOT - and I was able to perform a flawless set, my vocals perfect. Yes, I could definitely promote any product that will do that! Jagermeister: THE vocal elixir. No doubt about it.

BTW... I made a new email address. It's lydia@jager.com

And to bands of all sizes and styles, check out the promotional kick you get from Jagermeister!

Tuesday, February 14, 2006

Emotional

I am very emotional right now, and I don't know whether it is related to hormones or to the immense transitional period I've jumped into. Probably a bit of both.

I'm finding my dream client is turning out to be a nightmare, and my old, dusty dreams of doing something with my music have taken a quantum leap out of the box and into the present.

More and more I am finding it difficult to focus on anything that is not related to my music or charitable efforts... yet I must generate income. Do I dare go play $100/night gigs around town? At my age? Will they come hear me play, or will I feel bad for taking the owner's money after playing to an empty room?

Just playing 12-15 nights/month would cover my overhead. Anything beyond that could be put into recording, equipment for performance, costuming (my clothes suck!) or even the kids' college funds (currently nonexistent)

I love building websites, but not for the corporate world. Does that make sense? I am much more interested in nonprofits and the creative community. I suppose from now on I could pass sites I'd prefer not to do along to other designers...

In all honesty I'd like to maintain a certain "attitude" among my clientele. Is that too much to expect? Am I too idealistic? It really bugs me that one of the people I'm doing work for evicts people from low-income housing in order to convert those apts to condos for sale.

Sunday, February 05, 2006

Full Circle

It's funny how life works. I walked away from my music again and again, yet everything I do leads me back to it again and again. You would think that by now I'd get it through my thick skull that there's a message there, LOL.

Recent case in point: offering to do free websites for bands, musicians, artists and photographers led me to begin playing again, and now I'm actually making plans to perform publicly more than just at an open mic. night or two.

It's amazing... at my age... to be doing this, but I've discovered on myspace and jamwave that I'm the rule rather than the exception in this case. I've met some really talented artists and begun to enjoy a whole new dimension to my life.

I guess I'm a long way from being depressed... but the memory of that "black dog" as Mikel puts it, will always dog my steps and I know it's never far away despite the best of circumstances. It's been a long time since I truly gave in to it, and I hope it will be a long time before I do again, if ever.

Monday, January 02, 2006

Hope and Dread

This new year has me full of conflicting emotions. I am encouraged by last year's successes, yet know that I must forever learn more to be capable of growing beyond my current situation.

I've made great strides, but now it is important that I do not lose momentum. I've just placed several new craigslist ads and also have my previously mentioned game plans in action... although postponed somewhat due to my husband's schedule being 12 hour shifts until further notice.

He'd rather pay my bills and have me free to pick up kids, etc. for now... and go back to earning for myself when work slows down for him. Nevertheless, I would like to have some "pots on the stove" so to speak... so I have been getting ever more creative in seeking projects.

I will design some websites for free in order to showcase my skills... especially for artists, bands and musicians. If you're interested: let me know!

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

Getting to know you... the latest version

I tried this in a couple of my Yahoo groups, so I thought I'd bring it over here, too. Enjoy!

Although we are not all local, it would be fun to meet and get to know each other and form more of a global community spirit. Therefore, I thought I'd see what I could do to "break the ice" and open up some discussion here.

Please feel free to skip any questions you don't feel comfortable answering… I just found this list on the `net and modified it for use here.

• What is your name? Lydia Shelley
• Where do you live? How long have you lived there? Hollywood, Florida near I-95 & Hollywood Blvd. for 18 ½ years
• Do you have any pets? Yes. Right now we have a guinea pig and two bunnies
• What was the last book you read? A boring book on how to value Intellectual Property (my boss paid me to read it for him! LOL)
• Do you like to cook? Yes. Just hate to clean up the mess afterward
• What's your favorite food? I'm partial to beef: Prime Rib, Filet Mignon…
• Are you good at cooking/swimming/etc? I'm good at cooking; writing and singing songs; other writing such as speeches, essays and short stories; web-related stuff such as building websites,
doing research, etc. and I'm also pretty good at teaching people computer-related stuff. Not a really good swimmer, but I can do it well enough to keep from drowning if I fall into water that's over my head!
• Are you married or single? Married to the same man for 19½ years.
• Do you have brothers and sisters? Not from my mother… my father had other children but I have never met any of them. I would like to, though.
    o Are they older or younger than you? Older… as old as my mother
• Do you like baseball? More than football… but less than equestrian events, ice skating or dance competitions.
• Do you live alone? Nope.
• Do you live in a house or an apartment? A 1080 sq. ft. house with 6 other people!
• Have you ever lived in another country? Does six weeks count as "living" there?
• Have you ever met a famous person? Yes, but I don't care to elaborate.
• How do you spend your free time? Free time? What's that?
• Is English your native tongue, if not... what is? Yes.
• How long have you been studying English? Since before I was born, LOL
• How old are you? 40
• How tall are you? 5'4"
• Tell me about a favorite event of your adulthood. In March of this year I went and purchased my very first brand-new vehicle without a co-signer… that made me feel very grown-up, LOL
• Tell me about a favorite event of your childhood. Opening my first Polaroid camera from my mother one Christmas.
• What are your hobbies? Reading both fiction and non-fiction: especially biographies; writing songs, poems, essays, speeches and short stories (also working on two novels and an informational book)
• What two things could you not do when you were.....? When I was pregnant I could not go to loud nightclubs or ride the roller coasters at Disney World (haven't been back since!)
• What countries have you visited? Only Canada and Peru
• What country are you from? The USA
• What do you do on Sundays? Laundry, usually…
• What do you do? What's your job? I'm a webmistress and singer/songwriter
• What do you like to do in your free time? Watch movies and catch up on reading
• What is the nearest bus stop or train station to your house? The nearest bus stop is at Adams Street & 26th for the #6 bus (3 blocks away) and the tri-rail station is about a mile from my house • What is the nearest airport to where you live? Ft. Lauderdale-Hollywood International Airport
• What is your motto? "Maybe I can not help everybody, but that does not mean I should not try."
• What is your religion? My beliefs are Judeo-Christian, but we do not attend church.
• What kind of food do you like? All kinds… my favorite is probably just good old American grilled steaks with green beans and a baked potato loaded with lots of butter, sour cream & chives • What kind of people do you like? Creative people, intelligent people, optimistic, hopeful people
• What kind of people do you not like? Rude, nasty, inconsiderate, negative, pessimistic people and those who choose to be ignorant despite obvious intelligence.
• What languages do you speak? English and pig latin, LOL
• What two things could you not do when you were a child, but you can do now? Drive a car and drink alcohol
• What's something you do well? Write compelling songs
• What's your address? mizlydia @ gmail.com
PLEASE FOLKS, DON'T GIVE YOUR HOME ADDRESS PUBLICLY IN HERE! EMAIL, P.O. BOXES OR BUSINESS ADDRESSES ONLY!!!
• What's your father like? Deceased. He was a colorful character. Loved the ocean and had no legs from the knee down.
• What's your mother like? Also deceased. She was highly creative, intelligent, a do-it-yourselfer through and through.
• Where are you from? I was raised in Springdale, Ohio.
• Where were you born? I was born in Atlantic City, New Jersey
• Which sports do you like? Ice skating, dance competitions, equestrian events such as steeplechase and harness racing
• Who do you live with? My husband and five kids
• Who do you respect the most? God
• Who has had the most influence in your life? God
• Do you have a blog? If so, why did you decide to create a blog? Yes. To be able to record my thoughts publicly, and get occasional feedback from the rest of the world.
• Would you like to be famous? Yes, but reclusively so.
• What do you think you will be doing five years from now? Adopting children who have little hope of being chosen (older kids, kids with siblings, etc.)
    o Where do you think you'll be living five years from now? On a huge ranch in Montana!
• What is your goal in life? To glorify God by using the talents He gave me so that when my life is over I can truly say I did the very best I could have done.
• Are you a 'morning' or 'night' person? It varies according to what's going on in my life.
• When do you feel best? In the morning, afternoon, or evening? See the previous question
• Do you have a favorite time of year? No.
• How many cities have you lived in? That depends on how long you must live there to qualify as having lived there as opposed to only visiting. Long term, only two: Springdale and Hollywood.
• What jobs have you done? If I listed all of those it would take a full page by itself. Suffice it to say many and varied: I'm not too proud to work, nor afraid to learn new things.
• Which do you prefer, sunrises or sunsets? Neither. Both are equally breathtaking in their beauty. However, as several of those who responded to this question in the groups pointed out: sunset comes at a MUCH more convenient time of day!
• What could you do as a child that you can't do now? Hug and kiss my mother. I miss that more than any other single thing. In fact, I would give my right arm to have one more day with her!
• Who is your next door neighbor? A lady named Sonia
    o What is he or she like? Very nice… loves to have parties during the holidays (any holidays!)
    o Are you friendly with each other? Not "touchy-feely" friendly, but we chat and borrow cups of milk or sugar, etc. from each other
• How many times did you move as a child? Never. I lived in the same house until I grew up and left home.
• Are you a task oriented person or a people oriented person? Both… at different times.
• If you're single, what is the profile of the wife/husband
you would like to meet? I have to skip this one, cuz I'm married.

Monday, December 26, 2005

Humbug?

Okay. I don't need any of you to tell me that the last post was rather "Scrooge-y". I guess to sum it up, I would prefer either cash or a dontation to charity in my name over being given things I don't want or need and can't use. At least, unlike in the past... it doesn't have to go to waste any more: there's always Freecycle!

Saturday, December 24, 2005

No dice

Well, I guess they decided my portfolio was too slim to show my skills... and didn't want to take a chance on me. That's fine. I've since changed my posting on craigslist to say I'm not interested in a 9-5 "in-house" position.

Got my game plan in order... so I'll be going out on Monday to visit the first of the printers. I hope I won't have to go through the entire list before I find one that's interested. Once I have these brochures and biz cards in my possession, I'll move on to phase two... which will be to take them, in person, to local businesses. I think I'll get a better response that way than by mailing them out or choosing some form of media for advertising.

Any thoughts on this anyone? If there are any flaws in my thinking I'd prefer that they were pointed out before I hit the pavement...

Monday, December 19, 2005

Plan of action

Gosh! My blog is DEAD! Nobody comments anymore. I changed it back to public now that blogger has moderation for comments... but I guess it's going to take some effort on my part to write more and give people something worth stopping by here for.

Well... I think I've finally found traction, so to speak (no more spinning my wheels)

I can't say I'm not nervous, since I'm getting behind on the bills again, but since it's only by a few days so far, it's not too bad... just stinks that I'm so broke at this time of year. But I'll get over it.

I've interviewed with someone who got my resume from craigslist... and it's a job I'd take if it were offered, although I really hadn't planned to do the "9 to 5" again... it's close to home, looks promising (creative environment, interesting people and challenging work) and IS a steady paycheck. They also know I freelance so they won't be upset about that. We'll see...

I also went to see a guy today about working for him, but if he calls back, I will most likely tell him no. He was very annoying both on the phone prior to meeting him as well as in person. I can only imagine the ulcers he causes in those who must be around him from day to day. I have a choice: just say no to misery!

My primary client right now is mulling over the options I gave him for a maintenance agreement and I am working on secondary template sites that are related to the main project. I don't expect to obtain any further funds from that until after the first of the year.

So... what I have decided to do is work on getting the printing I need by bartering. To this end I have compiled a list of local printers who either do not have websites or whose websites could use a little "freshening up" (minor changes such as rollovers for the graphics, etc.)

I'll be pleased as punch if I can barter web services for printing what I need the way I want it to be printed. I'm quite sure my brochures will get me more work once I have them available to hand out.

I don't intend to mass market. I will visit businesses in person, and if they're not at all interested, I won't waste my brochures on them. My goal is to obtain more work than I can handle so I can start putting other people to work as well.

Wish me luck! Although I know my effort is worth a boatload of luck in the long run... luck might get me in the door, but it's my talent that will keep me there.